Solitude can be uncomfortable.
Not to be confused with loneliness, which is desperate and painful.
Solitude is more like nourishment for the soul.
It’s the uncomfortable rewiring of your brain. The alone time when you process events, ideas, and unsavory elements of your character. The time to explore pieces of you that get swept under the rug and hidden from your own consciousness.
No wonder so few like to be alone. Or if they are, they drown out their own voice with the addictive buzz of social media and Netflix. Usually at the same time.
We’ve all done it. And we’ve all hated ourselves for wasting our “alone time” on things that don’t contribute to our dreams, goals, and ambitions.
Sometimes hours go by…flicking, swiping, and numbing the voice inside telling you to just be still for a minute and appreciate the solitude.
One of the most powerful ways to design your own life is to become comfortable with being alone. And then taking the bold step of dipping your mind into the uncomfortable angst of piecing together the hidden pieces of yourself.
It’s the perfect time to plot and plan or do nothing at all.
Of course, it doesn’t have to be that dramatic. Silence is magical, but so is a good book, a long run, or an intense writing session. It all requires solitude though. It’s hard to write something worth reading with the door open.
So shut the door. Create something. Even if you forgo the silence and enjoy a fat cigar while listening to music and contemplating your future.